Relationship truth bomb: A stagnating relationship is a dying relationship. Ouch.

If you’re in a stagnating relationship, you’re more likely to feel bored, distant, unfulfilled and to divorce or separate…

Instead, be intentional and find ways to keep growing together.

Pro tip: Intention + Action = Transformation

In this post, we will share how to consciously enter the second half of your year with greater relationship clarity, confidence, and relationship power. If you’re reading this at another point of the year, you’ll still get the benefit of:

Relishing in the changes you’ve made;
Completing a much-needed tune-up with your partner(s) (we all need tune-ups!); and,
Co-creating a super-charged and thriving relationship.

Get strategic about your relationship

When people want to be great parents, employees, bosses, entrepreneurs, artists, professionals, they set goals, learn the skills and work on them, right?

It’s the same for relationships, if you want to be a great partner and if you want to thrive in your relationship, then you must set goals, learn the skills and work on them.

We highly recommend setting a vision for your relationship and crafting relationship goals because they help you close the gap between who you are as a couple today and your true potential as a couple.

“Setting personal and relationship goals prepares us to form the habits that are in service of our best and most authentic selves and relationships. The process motivates us, creates new levels of self-awareness and ultimately, is an act of celebration and self-love.” - Relationship Zen

Setting goals is just a start.

Achieving them is a whole different story.

To make it happen, you must keep them top of mind by reflecting on your progress and making changes when needed: daily, weekly, monthly, and at least every 6 months.

There’s little value in writing goals and keeping them out of sight and out of mind. We used to do that:

We used to set too many goals (albeit awesome ones!) at the start of the year without reassessing them until the end of the year. Not so effective!

We were left feeling disappointed in ourselves for betraying our intentions and overwhelmed because we felt like we had too many more goals to accomplish.

But not anymore! With our refined mid-year check-in process, we not only stay on track of our relationship goals, but we have more fun doing it.

It’s time for your relationship conscious tune-up

Achieve more and feel more grounded this half of the year than you did the first half with these 5 key questions. We’ve adapted them from Brendon Burchard, for the context of relationships:

What are 3 things that you and your partner have been doing that have been really working for you? Do one or more of those things each week. Put it in your calendar.
What can you acknowledge and forgive for not yet “accomplishing”? No shame. Goals should work FOR YOU and not the other way around. Reflect on the reasons with compassion and commit to it, postpone it, delete it, or modify it so it resonates with your current circumstances and your vision for your best relationship.
What relationship growth, experiences, and contributions can you celebrate so far this year? Have you made time to celebrate them yet? Schedule a mini or full blown celebration together. Put it in your calendar for this week or the next.
How would it feel to level-up your relationship? Or, what would it mean for you, your partner(s), and your family to level-up your relationship? Hold onto that feeling. You’ve got this.
What education, coaching or resources can you get to gain the skills and process to uplift and energize your relationship? Know that we have some of the best programs for couples who are committed to feeling super-charged and thriving in their relationships. Just reach out if you want to learn more and to see if we’re a good fit.

The first idea behind these questions is to remind ourselves how we want to show up in life and in relationships and to commit to these expectations.

The second idea (thanks to Brendon Burchard) is to accelerate, uplift and energize by “entering the second half of your year with clarity, confidence, and power”.

Have fun with your check-in and let us know how it goes!

Connect for even more relationship advice for couples

Having relationship problems? Want to crush those relationship goals with less stress and more ease so you can achieve more, feel more and experience more as a team?

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We’re not two halves, we’re two wholes sharing a path and we’re inviting you to join the movement!

David and Lindsey
Your trusted conscious relationship coaches

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